REDEFINING STRENGTH AS WE KNOW IT.
Superwoman is so last season.
Gaining the knowledge of matrescence is the first step. My transformation came when I took that new-found knowledge & used it to redefine my core beliefs, experiences & the ways I view motherhood - which is so powerful.
Strength is something that often came up & is key a key pillar in my redefine programme. Exploring what strength means to me, how I define it & what I believe makes a strong women & mother.
Until I saw it written down in front of me, I hadn’t realised how debilitating my thoughts & feelings on strength were. I thought strength was doing everything myself & being fiercely independent. Feeling like a failure if I had to ask for help.I felt weak if I couldn’t do it all. Shame crept up on me if I didn’t have it all together.
Redefining strength was the biggest game changer for me.
Understanding that I don’t have to do everything myself. Strength is reaching out & asking for help. Strength is loving & caring for your child even when it’s hard & you’re tired - but doing it anyway. Strength is forgiving yourself when you don’t get it perfect.
So what have I learnt to do differently?
I’m not going to lie - my thoughts on strength are so ingrained into me - its taking a lot to break old habits but like everything it’s a little at a time, bit by bit.
It's ok to hold your hands up & ask for help.
Sometimes it's the little things that people can take off your plate, that helps make your life feel so much easier. Redefining strength doesn’t have to be huge massive changes.
Don’t try & do things on your own.
There are people around you, showing you love & support - even if you can’t see it through the haze.
Here are just a few of my recent ‘moments of mum guilt’ & you know what, I’m owning them:
✌️ My sister dropped by & cooked us tea (she always offers & I find myself saying ‘no’ but I let her!)
✌️ At the end of term I messaged a school mum last minute to see if my daughter could walk to school with her, so I could get to an early work meeting
✌️ I took some time out from work (unapologetically) to pick up my daughter for a home lunch on her bday
✌️ I asked my mum to pop to the shop on her way round to save me having to go (I feel so lazy doing this but it helped me out so much)
✌️ I left my daughter in nursery later than normal (even though I pay until 6pm & always pick her up at 4:45pm because I feel bad!)
You can explore the pillar of strength & how we reframe it as part of the TMP. REDEFINE COURSE. COMING SOON. JOIN THE WAIT LIST HERE.
Join the TMP. movement over on insta & let me know if you try to be ‘strong’ and do everything yourself? Or have you managed to get a balance & ask for help? Get it off your chest. Sharing is caring.
