10 THINGS MATRESCENCE HELPS YOU UNDERSTAND.
THE POWER OF UNDERSTANDING.
Understanding, acknowledging & accepting matrescence doesn’t change the fact that being a mum is the hardest job in the f*cking world. But having a word to describe the transition we all go through gives us a common understanding & a common language to give some explanation of what we are going through.
1.YOU FEEL VALIDATED.
You’re going through something profound. Matrescence is a real thing – you’re not going crazy. A complex transition is taking place, awareness of matrescence is powerful & validates your feelings.
2.YOU ACCEPT THE CHANGES.
Matrescence theory explains once you become a mother everything in your life will change & this is expected. It's ok that it takes time to find your feet – your whole centre of gravity has shifted.
3.YOU WON’T FEEL ALONE.
When you learn about matrescence you start to understand – it was never just you. Every mum goes through matrescence & every mum struggles with the changes it brings. You are not alone in this.
4.YOU START TO SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
You understand your priorities, your worries, your struggles, your world have all changed & you can consciously deal with them. You begin to appreciate the transition you are going through & reset expectations.
5.YOU STOP FEELING SHAME.
You stop feeling shame that you are not coping, that you are not enjoying every moment, that you find parts of motherhood hard. You realise your feeling are normal & nothing to be ashamed of.
6.YOU STOP COMPARING.
You realise every mum is going through this transition. You start to appreciate every mother’s journey through matrescence is unique. Every mother faces their own struggles, in their own way at different times.
7.YOU STOP FEELING GUILT.
You stop feeling guilty that we’re not enjoying every single moment of being a mum – it’s ok to share these feelings. You admit you feel the push & pull of motherhood because you know it’s normal – it’s part of what you are going through.
8.YOU START TO BE KINDER TO YOURSELF.
When you understand you’re going matrescence, you stop being so hard on yourself. You start to show yourself the same compassion you show your kids. You talk to yourself with a softer edge. You are kinder, more gentle.
9.YOU ACCEPT THE CHANGE YOU’RE GOING THROUGH IS IRREVERSIBLE.
You start to accept that becoming a mother unravels & rebuilds you & it can’t go back to exactly how it was, you can’t go back to the ‘old’ you. You trust the process that motherhood is a gift to meet yourself again.
10.YOU UNLOCK YOUR MOTHER MINDSET.
Understanding matrescence gives you the acceptance of the new phase of your life. Having a baby happens in a moment of time – becoming a mother is the journey. Unlocking your Mother Mindset is walking the conscious path of being a mum. It will give you the chance to redefine, reframe and reconnect to thrive in motherhood.
UNDERSTANDING, ACKNOWLEDGING & ACCEPTING MATRESCENCE CHANGES EVERYTHING.
Matrescence is the portal to the rest of your life.
